Updated: Sep 30, 2018
When our Mummy minds whir with the logistics of a new baby, our innate ability to multi-task can be more of a hindrance than a help. We 'know' that we can do 4 or 5 things at once, so we berate ourselves fully when we start failing that mark with baby-in-tow.
We are used to having a lot of 'tabs' open in our minds and we feel good when we reach that 'maximum flow' when all our threads of activity come together seemlessly. The key to our multi-tasking success is in controlling when and how often to 'flit' between our various 'tabs', whatever they may be.
Ahh, but here's the rub; babies simply don't allow us to flit, they demand our full attention. Our beautiful bundles are gloriously ignorant of schedules and to-do lists and they fail to understand that particularly as sleep-deprivation and exhaustion set in, Mummy may become less than fully 'focused at will', and that Mummy may loose sight of, well... Mummy. It's nature Mummy, don't give yourself a hard time about the many threads left scattered in the path of this incredible new life-force stampeding through your world; it will ease with time, I promise.
Following the flow of a beautiful piece of music instead of entertaining all your nagging thoughts is a surprisingly quick & easy way to give your mind a short-term rest and re-boot. It only takes 5 minutes and it really, really will be worth it. The next time you find yourself on the verge, because: fumbling with baby-grow poppers; the ringing phone; why is s/he crying now? that appointment you really don't want to think about; the unanswered emails and the mounting social obligations; was this really what I had in mind for myself? I'm so very, very tired...
It will ALL wait.
Kiss your baby.
Make sure your baby is somewhere safe.
Play yourself 1 piece of music and sit on the floor.
Listen and breath deeply: in through the nose, out through the mouth.
5 minutes later: your brain will have re-booted.
Please try it.
Here's one for starters, Shubert's Serenade: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZpA0l2WB86E
Hang in there Mummy, you're doing so amazingly well.